An amazing campaign in the UK launched yesterday. The aim of this campaign is to dispel the myths of what stops people from adopting and to encourage those thinking of adopting to take the first steps in their journey.
During mine and my husbands adoption journey we came across people who had been hesitant in the past to register with local authorities or agencies because of reasons like they would be single adopters, they don’t earn enough or because they rent their home instead of owning it. These are all myths. I’m so happy that this campaign has begun as their are so many children waiting for homes as well as children deemed ‘hard to place children’ because of their background, previous broken down placements or because they are over the age of 4 which is crazy, this means that our little boy was within this category as he had just turned 5 when he was placed with us. At the time of me typing up this blog there are currently over 2500 children waiting on the adoption list of which 28% have been waiting for their forever home for over a year.
There are common myths of why people can’t adopt such as being single, having a disability, not owning their home, not earning enough money, not having a spare room. But these are all myths. The only requirements in the UK are that you are over 21 years of age and are resident in the UK. Criminal record checks (enhanced) are done so make sure you declare any convictions to your social worker. Also as long as your in good health including mental health all should be good.
For us all these things were fine. I have a history of anxiety and depression but this was not a problem once I opened up and spoke about it with our social worker. This was difficult initially just because it’s not something at the time I talked about, but it’s totally worth it if it gets you further along the adoption process. My tip to you just be honest and open with your social workers, this is what they are looking for from you during the pre approval phase. It also helps you as well, because of my history our social worker checked in more with me during the early days of little mans placement to make sure that I was coping ok.
There are many charities out there which help those going through the adoption process: 1) Adoption UK – https://www.adoptionuk.org 2) Banardos – https://www.barnardos.org.uk/adopt?gclid=CjwKCAjwkoz7BRBPEiwAeKw3q1DIeOsNChJhQC53DQnJ2njmc4AlS5NdMAFCjJT7afTI_bvHYyXXghoCT1IQAvD_BwE 3) Action For Children – https://www.actionforchildren.org.uk/fostering-adoption/find-out-more-about-adoption-ppc/?gclid=CjwKCAjwkoz7BRBPEiwAeKw3q5V2sFCfRmxpVdwdggFF2WV81RRdK6zfr4wk5LYNathvSixp8EgLEBoC9RMQAvD_BwE. 4) You Can Adopt – https://www.youcanadopt.co.uk
Check out these sites they also have social media accounts, I really recommend Adoption UK’s Instagram account. I have found this super helpful, there is also a great adoption community on Instagram to. Plus there is also my book (available on amazon). Also feel free to reach out to me if I can ever be of any help.